Tired and frustrated.

  • Dear friends,  I close to the end of my 3rd week in the callenge.  I think that I have come to that point where you are either in or out.  That is how I feel today and the message in my journal from Bill Phillips.  This is a very hard day as I usually don't get past the 3rd week on most diets and I stayed up too late last  night helping my sister with a project for her class.  I had ubwo and little time this am as my husband leaves for work at 5:10 and gym opens at 4:00.   I still did it but am dragging and down--just wanted to lay there with him and sleep.  I usually don't ask outside of my immediate circle of support but could really use a little encouragement.    I'm still in but the abyss is looking like the Grand Canyon.  THX jill

  • Hang in the Jill!  That feeling usually last about a day.  Keep your eye on the prize.  If you have time, read the posts shared on this site, it should help to get your mojo back.   Have you read the Ladies Success Journal?  http://mikeharris.org/2010/03/14/lady-success-document-as-of-3-14-10/.  Read it if not.  It always helps.

    Do not throw in the towel.  Usually when that happens, the thing that we waited to happen, happens and then we think, well if I hadn't done that, would I have seen better results than what I see now?  There will more more tough days ahead, you just have to take it one moment, one minute, one hour and one day at a time. :-)

    Love you some you...PERSEVERE!

  • Hang in there, Jill!!! Get through a few more DAYS and you will be SO GLAD you did! Focus on just what is immediately in FRONT of you, nothing more. Get some sleep as SOON AS YOU can.  When we are overtired, EVERYTHING SEEMS harder!

    Trust me: get some sleep, drink a ton of water and I think the SUN will be shining tomorrow in your world!

    -Have Confidence!

  • Hey Jill! I just want to let you know I have been right where you are! Week three and four were VERY difficult for me! I was extremely tired all the time, and thought about giving up more than a few times... The one thing that got me through was when Bill Phillips talked about keeping promises to ourselves. I have always been super good at caring for others and putting the needs of others before mine.....Jill you can do this, and you are doing this for you. Remember there was something inside of you searching for a new healthy breakthrough, and if you give up now you will have let yourself down. When I feel like giving up I always picture myself two three years from now going through the same "3 week cycle".....Trust I have failed on several diet and workout plans myself and it always seems like a 3 to 4 week gig.......

    You've got this....The being tired will pass....Remember you are doing this for you and you are beyond capable!!!!! Read over some of the success stories....Pump yourself back up!!!! Change is in store for you.......Make it happen!!!!

    *~*Success is hidden under a rock of hard work. Keep digging with patience; it's up to you, only*~*

  • Jill,

    Try and get a couple of hours of extra sleep this weekend, that will help.  Also focus on changing your mindset from "I usually don't get past the 3rd week of most diets" to "I'm going to blow through week 3 of this challenge and run head on in to week 4 because I WANT TO CHANGE MY PAST BEHAVIOR and

    You can do this!


    Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right ~ Henry Ford

    Michelle Simpson ~2009 Body-for-LIFE Champion 46+ Catagory

  • Jill-

    Strap on those boots and hit that $%&@ canyon with all you've got! Show it what you're made of!!

    Stacy Lynn

  • Jill -  The fact that you felt like posting this and being brutally honest and also starting it with "Dear Friends" tells me: YOU ARE IN!

    The beautiful part is that when anyone offfers you encouragement, it's from the heart because it's more than just words saying, "I know how you feel", it's from  our own personal experiences.  Even now I shed a tear as I write this, because I remember how hard week 3-5 were.  How scared I was, if I am going to do this or not.  Even now finishing week 7, I get scared and sometimes get discouraged, but I look for positive motivation wherever I can find it.  (My own family and friends, although encouraging are not much help so I dig deeper).

    They say a rat trapped in water in total darkness will only last 3 minutes, but a rat given just a little light to focus on can last 36 hours!

    You are more than a little rat, you don't know what you are truly capable of and that is a scary thing.  But find that positive light, whether it be on these forums, in the book, some other books, or anywhere you can.

    So here's some things that have helped me climb out of the Abyss.....and yes it's still as big as the Grand Cayon....but I drove through that once so it can be done!

    There is a Thread titled gratitude....post something here at least weekly if not daily...something you are thankful for....something like "thank you for my sister whom I love very much, and I am happy I was given the opportunity to help her with her project."

    I read and re-read two things daily, or if I run out of time then definitely on my Free day.  

    One is that initial letter to myself that I wrote in the beginning.  Those first couple of weeks were so emotional because I felt I was going to let myself down again.  But now, I celebrate it and I am gaining momentum as I read it as it's starting to come together.

    Snippets from the Body for life book, are doing wonders.  I find myself constantly learning something new because now it's applying in ways it never did before.  Here's an excerpt from the book, in the chapter...staying on course.

    "We must all accept that ill fortune is an inevitable part of life, and it is because of, not in spite of, misfortune that we grow.  You see, our character will never be fully tested until things are not going our way.  Those who have the courage to succeed in spite of adversity become an inspiration.  They contribute value to the lives of other.  They make a difference."

    You see Jill once you finish this you will become an inspiration to others even without you intending it to be.

    .....one last note.....something that has always helped me stay motivated is music.  Find that special song of yours, something that means something to you and use that before your workouts.  For me I play the same song that I've played since Day 1 when I head to the Gym, and wow does it motivate me!

    So smile =)  and keep us posted!  We all believe in you, including your inner self!!

    ~Marqui D.  C1W7D47

  • Thank you all for the positive reenforcment.  I am breathing a sigh of relief as I am closing out  my day,   The PLAN is to get extra rest tonight and not overdo it this weekend.  All of your posts had something that spoke to me and though I am not a mushy person I found myself tearing up.  This is truely a mind game for me since I know how to work out and diet (been doing a little here and a little there for years).  Any way Im ALL in   thx jill

  • Jillian - I sense another survivor of week 3. Woo Hoo!

    When I got onto BFL, somebody posted this and I remember it well - "If we were on a trip, and every time we took a wrong turn, we had to go back to the beginning, we would never reach our destination". See sometimes there are curves and hills and MAJOR ROAD CONSTRUCTION, but we just keep going, knowing that in time, we will get to the end, the 12 weeks.

    Nice part is, you have at least 100 new friends to go on that trip with.

    I LOVE ROAD TRIPS!! Lets DO this thing!!

  • Marqui-Great post!! I LIKE your thinking! :) You are an inspiration to this forum so keep posting away!

    Jill-Legs is right, hop on and let's get our BFL Road Trip going!  We're here for you! :)

    DebMO :0)           Blessed to be a Blessing...

  • Road trip - Road trip -- Woohoo....let's go!

    and remember we need fuel fuel fuel!    Can anyone say   Palm-protien, Fist-carb, Veggie Veggie!  (....and whose got the keg of water!?)

    Thnx Deb - I "try" to keep them short but I write from the heart and my heart has much empathy!

    Anyways I have unofficially elected you Ambassador of the "New to BFL?  Read this 1st" checklist"  Because so many of the questions asked can be answered w/ that!  I refer it to other many times!  I wish there was a way that could just stay up there.

    -and Jill keep us posted!  Each little discovery we make and share helps all of us stay motivated, knowing we are not alone, even on those days when you are in your isolated gym (like my condo complex w/ 150 plus units and not a single soul except me, using the gym)   Helps all of us know that someone, somewhere out there is on our same wavelength and we are not alone.   We Rock!

    ~Marqui D.  C1W7D48 ....heading towards....free day!  Yay!

  • Jillian - MarquiD....HOW WE DOING FRIENDS?

  • Hey Legs!  Thanks for checking on me.  I got past the worst of it and heading around the last turn in my first challenge.  I am in week 10.  Stats are as follows. weight from 209 down to 185.  Pants from sz 18 solid to size 14 and getting looser.  Shirts from tight XL or 1X to sz large comfortably.   Got my face back and my feet are in way less pain (I am a mail carrier).  Hoping in the next 2.5 weeks to be in a size 12 (this being my goal weight).    I am most proud of the FACT that I did not lie to myself this time.  I really hate when I do that.  Anyway  I am pretty satisfied over all.  :)  jill

  • Hey there, Jillian, I'm glad to see you pushed past that wall. I'm in Week 6 (nearing the end) and I feel fantastic. I've had days where I frown and go, "really? It's working....I know it is...but man."

    Proud of you for pushing through!

  • im soo encouraged by this conversation.  Thank you for sharing your heartaches and triumphs with everyone else. I cant wait to keep going! ! !