I think i am ready for a serious change. I have had my weight ballooning and yo-yoing for the past few years. On my own i had gone from about 260 down to 215 through diet and exercise and i was so proud of myself. I have had the BFL book for about 10 years but never followed through with the challenge to completion. I know what it takes to get my weight back down, i just have to motivate myself to do it, and i am hoping that there are others here how can support me and help me through this journey.
I am a 32 y/o husband and father and i want to be around for my family for a long time. Over the past few monthsi have also started drinking more due to stresses in my outside life, and i have forever struggled with quitting smoking. I know that i must overcome all three of these obstagles if i want to life a happy, healthy, and positive life. I hope that all of you out there could give me the advice and support that I need to get through not one or two, but all three of these goals that i wish to achieve. (Get back down to 200lbs, quit smoking and quit drinking) :)
I will be starting upon returning from vacation next week (7/28/10), but I am trying to begin now with the smoking and drinking, and i am open to any advice that anybody has to offer.
Any advice on how to get my wife to join me? Whenever i ask her to join me in changing our lifestyles, it never seems that she wants to try or to follow through?
Thanks in advance,
“Listen to the mustn'ts, child. Listen to the don'ts. Listen to the shouldn'ts, the impossibles, the won'ts. Listen to the never haves, then listen close to me... Anything can happen, child. Anything can be.” - Shel Silverstein
If you are not able to stop drinking on your own please look into twelve step recovery.
RE Smoking... thats a tough one! I quit cold turkey about four months ago but I had strep throat for four days so I had a "head start" on the quit. Maybe talk to your doctor about some quitting tools?
RE getting your wife to join you... all you can do is lead by example. You just do you and hopefully you success will inspire her.
First of all, that is awesome that you recognize that you need to make a change and become healthy. I want to also say, that you have definately came to the right place, the people on this forum are awesome and they will love to give you all the support you need, just keep coming back and asking lots of questions, they are so here for you. I would like to recommend that you read the book from front to back and then plan your workouts and meals. It really is about planning. Also please remember that we are not perfect and you might have fall backs but you must just get back up and brush yourself off and continue thru. So many fall and never get back up, so please don't fall in that group. As for your wife I suggest just focusing on yourself first and once she sees the great changes you are making it might encourage her to join in. Welcome aboard and please keep coming back for support and encouragement. This forum has helped get me thru my first C1, just finished up on Saturday.
"If you mind can conceive, you can achieve it
I am pretty sure that I am not at the 12 step level, it has been a couple of months, but i am sure that i am not an alcoholic. Just kind of been imbibing more that i should be. I understand about trying to lead by example, however my wife does not seem to take it seriously when i try to make healthy changes, it is tough to break bad habits when your partner continues to do the same things that you are trying to avoid =(
I just want to be able to get off to a good start and not look back. We both need to drop some lb's and break out of our habits, but i feel like I will have a much harder time doing it if she is not on board too
Sorry Leevis didn't mean to imply anything! If you are just looking to cut back keep your alcohol consumption for freeday and you'll be a-okay. I understand about your wife and that it is harder with bad unauthorized foods in the house. It is hard for me when my roomates bring home cake and things like that too so I get it. The fact is though that we can only control ourselves in this world. Trying to make someone change their eating habits is one hundred percent of the time a failed attempt. Just let it go because its a battle you can't win.
No offense taken, i have just seen many people go down that road, and that is why i decided to give up the drinks. I know that i can only control myself, it would just be nice to have some more support at home. Seems like i should't have much trouble getting support here.
I am actually looking forward to hitting up the gym for some HIIT, which was my favorite when i was back in shape last (around 6 months ago), damn that was a quick time to put 30lbs back on. Have to hit the elliptical though, darn shinsplints don't allow me to jog.
Wanna get some workouts in prior to starting out a challenge next week Thanks for your advice so far
Leevis2 I recommend you get started on your own and hopefully your wife will want to join you. But in all honesty, don't hold your breath. My hubs hasn't joined me yet. He doesn't suffer with food issues or poor health and he's not over weight. However, since turning 50 he's had more interest in doing some thing even if it's only pull ups, which he started doing after I hung a pull up bar in one of our doorways.
The most important thing to remember is that you must do this for you and no matter what anyone else around you is doing, you have to count on yourself to see it through.
The elliptical is just as effective as anything else, so don't short change yourself because you use the elliptical.
Commit to yourself and then honor that self promise. You can do this.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right ~ Henry Ford
Michelle Simpson ~2009 Body-for-LIFE Champion 46+ Catagory
Re the elliptical... it will work just great for your HIIT! I started my HIIT on the treadmill and was LOVING IT until I developed some tibial tendonitis. Had to switch to the recumbant bike which I was not stoked about. Long story short I get just as great of HIIT workouts on the bike.
I'm 54 and TOOK up smoking about 2 years ago to keep from eating.
How sad is that!
Anyway, completing 3 weeks of the BFL transformation, I saw while i was eating healthy and exercising, I was spoiling all I worked for by smoking.
TODAY, I decided to give up smoking...
I took my remaining pack and crushed them!!
Right now I feel empowered and good about myself.
I don't know what tomorrow will bring, I can only go day by day.
I threw away my tobacco pouch today too. Quit 4 years ago and put on 15 kg :(. Started again 2 years ago and have been meaning to quit for a while now. I know I'm gonna be cranky for a week but it's gonna be worth it.
Upward and onward. It can only get better!
Good morning Leevis,
How you doin?
I wanted to mention that I purchased Nicorette Gum to help me.
it seems to help.
I believe your wife need sto make this decision on her own and can't be pushed.
I also believe when she sees your "transformation" she will want to change too.
she will make her decision than.
Well last night was not a good one =( Decided to finish what was left of my vices, man i was weak. That's ok though today is a new day. Didn't make the gym this morning (only time I can go) as my 3 1/2 yo had a really rough night. But at least i got to spend the afternoon with him chasing him around. I really believe that i need to change my ways for him.
THanks you all for your support and concerns already. I look forward to proving to myself that i can do this.
Lets see how this goes. Hope to get to the gym tomorrow. Gonna do a while of cardio before i get back into the weights to just get back into the flow.
Leevis~ I too had the Body for Life book for about 10 years. Started and stopped many challenges. In 2009 I had had enough too and decided one more time to begin a challenge; however, I in talking with friends at work, we decided to do it as a group. We began with the "before" picture and this challenge was different because I didn't want to let the group down. With my many attempts at the challenge before, I wasn't too optimistic about the results or follow through. We ended up winning the group challenge and this has forever changed my attitude on getting healthy. I hope this inspires you to either find a group to work with or know that it is never too late. Any advice or encouragement you need form me, please don't hesitate to ask!
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