Why is it getting so much harder?!

  • The first couple of weeks i did great. My diet was by the book, and so were my workouts but once i hit week 6 things started going down hill. I had a bad day of eating that week, and this week i had a couple of bad days! Monday i was 169, and when i checked this morning i was up to 173.. I've been174 for 3 weeks straight since i started my challenge. It's so frustrating it's like i'm not making any progress at all. My week 1 and week 4 pics look the same.

    I thought my arms looked smaller, but when i measured them.. They are exactly as when i started.. ARGH. It's been so hard to stay on plan with my eating.. I'm so hungry even though ive been eating correct portions, and drinking my water.  From the looks of it, i'm not going to have a miracle week 8 and im just wondering if i'll ever see any difference in my body. I am stronger, and my pants fit looser but i look the same as when i started :(


    Sorry i just had to vent

  • Mari you are just getting to the good part!!  Now is when all of the hard work from the past 6 weeks starts cranking.  Remember the day you started the challenge?  Remember how bad you wanted to do this?  

    Change your negative mind to a positive one.  The "8 week miracle" is no miracle, it's a PAYOFF for the hard work you do up to that point.  A miracle implies that something happens unnaturally and all of the sudden excess fat and desire to eat crap just suddenly leave you.  They don't.  With continued hard work and clean eating your results WILL COME.

    Stay the course my friend.  Clean your eats back up and if you are hungry more than every three hours, increase your portion sizes slightly to get you back to full for three hours.  

    Be sure you are drinking plenty of water and getting plenty of sleep.

    Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right ~ Henry Ford

    Michelle Simpson ~2009 Body-for-LIFE Champion 46+ Catagory

  • I will clean up my eating and continue going to the gym consistently, and i guess we'll see what happens in 5 weeks.

  • Mari! You are doing fantastic!! Just keep on keepin' on! I think we've all been to the place where we stop and think "what is the point of this again??"

    If you continue working hard and hitting your meals, workouts, and water intakes, then you will see results.

    If you stop now, then you'll never know what could have been.

    Don't forget to plan, reread your goals and day dream about the better you that you will become.

    Best of luck!!

    Stacy Lynn

  • Come on Mari you can do this!!  Do as Michelle said and remember you are hitting some rough weeks where you may feel more tired and that usually can make us susceptible to cravings.  They will feel worse during these difficult weeks, I don't think they really are, it's just that we are so tired that we can't deal with it as well.  So for the next few weeks try to get a little more sleep, as much extra as you can and still get in your workouts and all 6 meals.  Even if you put your meals to 2 1/2 to 2 3/4 hrs apart.  Just know we believe you can do this, we have faith in you.

  • You can't guess Mari, you have to believe.  I cried like a baby at week 10 of my first challenge because I realized that I had so much weight to lose that I wouldn't be an after in 12 weeks.  I could have given up and put it all aside and you know what, if I had, I'd still weigh 300lbs.  

    Are you just having a melancholy day, is there something else messing with your mind that makes you feel weak right now?  It's not uncommon.

    Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right ~ Henry Ford

    Michelle Simpson ~2009 Body-for-LIFE Champion 46+ Catagory

  • Mari,

    This is not the time to give up my friend. Look at it this way, if you feel it is getting tougher, it means that your body is struggling hard inside to make the transformations you are forcing it to do through eating well and good workouts so far. And this process is now more visible to you through what you are experiencing.

    I remember very clearly, this is exactly the way it happened to me during my week 7 when I did my first challenge. All was well until week 6 and suddenly intense cravings and what not. I did give in once, but did not give up! Just drink more water whenever you feel hungry. Your body will soon get adjusted to this as well. This is just a passing phase. Remember, just stick on and do not ever give up. Just continue what you are doing and I am sure you'll be surprised with what your body can do.

    BFL changed my life!

  • Mari, keep at it! Although you can't see the results, your body is changing!!!  I am at the end of week three and I haven't seen any results but I do feel much better! When things get rough for me I just envision what I'm going to look like when this transformation is complete, regardless how long it takes! Hang in there we can do this!

    Tisha :-) “Running won't kill you, you'll pass out first!"

  • Thanks for the support. I'm just frustrated and upset because i have alot of pressure on me to lose weight.. and fast. My whole family expects me to like lose the weight over night, and they are always making comments about everything. It really messes with my head and puts alot of doubt in my mind. The reality that it will take me probably a year to be where i want to be drives me crazy. Sometimes i just want to curl up and hide.. My mom thinks that im eating too much when like on my plate all i have is 1/2cup of brown rice and a portion of chicken.. Everytime i think i look slimmer she just gives me a face like "You think so, but you're wrong", and then grabs my rolls and tells me i should do more sit ups.. Argh.

  • Mari - Do not let the scale overrule the obvious.  You said your "pants fit looser."  BELIEVE the little things because they add up to the big results.  I don't care what challenge you're in, I have found week 6 to be the hardest week to get through.  Stay on track, do not give in to any doubts.  It's working, even if you can't see it.  I went through that during my first challenge.  Have someone else look at your photos.  I'd be willing to bet they see a lot more than you do.  I didn't see a thing until others pointed out the positive differences.  You will see a miracle of some kind.  It may not be at week 8 but you will see something by week 12.  This is a process and that process takes at least 12 weeks.  Hang in there, you'll be so glad you did. :-)

    It took me over a year.  You are more than welcome to click on my name and check out my progress photos and comments.  Forget about what they want.  I like to say, through this process it is okay to be selfish to a certain extent.  This is about you and no one else.  Do your thing in your time. Go Mari Go! :-)

    Love you some you...PERSEVERE!

  • Mari;

    Week 6 has been hard on me too in both of the challenges I have completed so far (and many others for that matter). I just started C3 and my first week has not been the best. But guess what? I have worked too hard to give up now. I will wake up in the morning and start another BFL day like I always do. I will not let guilt get to me, I will isolate it and move forward. YOU WILL DO THE SAME.

    None of us have had perfect challenges because we are all human. We all make mistakes and we all mess up from time to time. But if you ACT YOUR WAY TO BETTER THINKING, you will get to realize that Body for LIFE can do so much more for you than just change your body. You say your arms looked thinner, but still measure the same? Well it might measure the same, but will look different with more muscle and less fat, so don't overlook this. PLEASE DON'T FOCUS ON SCALES or the like. Your pants fit looser - GREAT. It means you are doing something right girl.

    And like Michelle says - the best is yet to come. Work hard and you will see some fabulous things happen in the next couple of weeks. Michelle has been doing this for a long time now - she did not do one challenge, or two - she did many (just like I plan to do). You might not have as much to lose as we did - or you might, I don't know, but I do know that THIS IS THE BEST THING THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO ME. That doesn't mean that it is easy in any way. We have to work the program for the program to work for us. But we are doing it and you are too.

    Keep at it. Glad to see you are cleaning out the house - that helps. Now the next time some food porn comes your way, do what I do and say " I SPIT ON BAD FOOD". Perhaps not the "cleanest" way of doing it, but it works for me.


  • Mari, I just want to say, thinking about the one year that it might practically take you to get where you want to be is a sure shot recipe for failure. Instead of being overwhelmed by the thought of it, just take every day, one day at a time. Concentrate on getting your daily workouts and eating well every day. This way, you will be very focused rather than lose heart. Results will come, don't worry.

    Even though it is really hard, just ignore what your mom says or comments for the time being. After a while, when she starts to witness your transformation, she will surely know you're on the right track. Just prove it through your actions.

    BFL changed my life!

  • Sometimes our friends and family, despite the best intentions can be discouraging at times. My family doesn't understand why I want to lose weight they are constantly saying " Don't lose too much... a woman should have some meat on her bones!" But put all that aside and set your own goals and honor the commitments you make to yourself.

    Tisha :-) “Running won't kill you, you'll pass out first!"

  • Mari,

    I saw little changes in my clothing and pics during the first 9 wks or so...but I kept at it cause I knew if I quit when I saw little happening on the outside, then I would just be back to square one.  Things started happening kind of fast after wk 9, I went down a couple of sizes, shorts were baggier, people started making comments on my wt loss so that kept me going.

    I continued to read the Ladies Success Document for extra motivation and kept saying I know this can happen to me if I just stick with it; what do I have to lose besides weight and inches.

    By golly that kind of thinking kept me in the game...At the end of 12 wks...-20# and 15 inches! And it is only getting better because of the mindset I have...I only measure and weigh every four weeks so I don't see the fluctuations so much in the scale (the devil!).

    I hope this provides some encouragement for you cause YOU are worth it Mari! We are here for you and want to see you at the end of your challenge saying, "I Did It, I Finished This Thing!!!!"

    Many Blessings! :)

    DebMO :0)           Blessed to be a Blessing...

  • Mari - I thought this might help you.

    Thoughts That Strengthen–Thoughts that Weaken!

    by: Michael Harris 3/31/2007

    A challenge is hard enough under ideal circumstances. It can become much more difficult if you have to spar with co-workers, friends and family who do many things to weaken your resolve–things like bringing home treats, scheduling things to do during your workout times, or continually reminding you of your past dietary failures! Feeling your blood pressure rising already? You NEED TO READ the rest of this blog!

    There IS A WAY OUT! And it is through conquering your own thought life! Look, you’ll always have resistance to your desires–unless you have no relationships at all anyway! As long as you live under give and take circumstances you’ll never be conflict free. But, by controlling your thoughts, and thinking only thoughts that strengthen you, you can make this work!

    I know some of you are already skeptical of whether one can control his own thoughts–which is a weakening thought by the way–because it keeps you from trying something that can improve you. But let me explain and illustrate. Controlling your own thoughts starts by: A. Recognizing a weakening thought as it occurs: B. Stopping that thought dead in its tracks; and C. Replacing it with a strengthening thought that has an action attached to it.

    Here’s an example: Weakening Thought: "My spouse doesn’t support me in my challenge. He is sabotaging me–I’m frustrated; I’m failing; and it’s all his fault!" That’s a weakening thought because it is blaming, and it gives all the power to change your life to another, taking it away from yourself. Replace it thusly: "Today, before I do what I want for myself, I will do something for my husband–I don’t want him feeling neglected or unwanted." See the difference? In one situation, you have no action or solution–you just tread water in the pool of chaos or try to change another unsuccessfully. This often leads to you doing a double back flip into a giant bowl of Ben & Jerry’s ice cream. In the second, you do what you can, not to change him, but to love him unconditionally. This thought and the action that will follow it give you hope and freedom ultimately, even if he doesn’t change.

    This isn’t voodoo or psycho babble. It’s actually the same principle by which spouses of alcoholics regain or retain their sanity through Alanon Famiy Groups. You can do the same, with practice, and with the right actions. If you do this, you won’t be sorry! No matter how it turns out, you will have done the right thing under difficult circumstances, and that in itself strengthens your character.

    Your mission, should you decide to accept it, is to give us all other examples of how this principle has worked in your life!